When you go to new city , how curious you are about everything, noticing every little details of place, taking pictures of everything, I feel the same as a new Hijabi , noticing behavior of everyone around me ,reactions of people,their thoughts, their concerns. Outsiders do not matter to me ,but yes ,my family and friends surely matters,
After a conversation with a close friend about my Hijab today ,her concern was over my not so attractive look which hides my beautiful hair, Why did I do this, Did someone asked me to do it , what was the need for it, if it’s temporary ? Her concern was so genuine, like always ,her selfless care and concern has always kept a special place in my heart, where ever we are ,we have always been connected by our hearts.
I told her that it is absolutely my choice and I like it, I didn’t give her much reasoning and she never asked for it but that made me think of something about us ,all of us,something so deeply set in our subconsciousness.We have all become so materialistic in all these years that we never realize it,it has become a part of us,of our lives,we find pleasures in looking good so much,that some of us will not even dare to step outside without makeup! what for??
To impress others, if yes what will we get out of it?
To be accepted by others? Will some else’s idea of how you should look matter to us, I think in that case I have rejected their idea of how should I look ? Are we not enforcing society upon us to tell us how we should dress up to be more acceptable, to be more liked just because of our looks and not our capabilities , is it right ?
Why beauty now a days is all about show off? We are all Hippocrates, saying beauty is skin deep, but do we actually believe in it?
Glamour has taken so much place in our lives, that for true beauty of a person,his heart , his soul,nobody cares! How a person think, how nice he/she is, his behavior, his nature , intelligence and intellect, all have been shadowed by this idea of glamour! Men are rejecting women because they want to marry tall women, skinny, or fair women , if not then definitely she should be rich enough It is also true vice versa, I know best of the people I have met in my life, well-educated ,intellectual, though not glamorous enough, and not yet married!! Why , may be they didn’t jump into this race of glamour, they just love being simple souls. For them, I would say they will definitely find a person who will admire their true beauty.
Isn’t it the time to check our parameters to judge a person’s beauty ? We need to stop somewhere, and think!! Not everyone can run in this race ,they have other races in life to win for,to die for!
Hijab is my first step to loosen my neck from this grip of materialism, and a step forward to focus more and reflect on my inside,.