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On Death Anniversary of Malcolm X, Remembering his powerful words!
For Wednesday Ritual Quotation , I chose this quote from Malcolm X, inspired from his autobiography that I started reading a month back but didn’t finish it yet, I am more busy in blogging these days and reading posts from WordPress Reader than my own list.
Malcolm X was a strong leader with a great vision,unfortunately he didn’t live long enough to write many books but what he left is worth reading! It somehow gives me that strength that I am looking for,his words are empowering which compels for the need of self-respect and most essential ,everyone’s right to freedom! . He lived for it and died for it.
Most of his quotes are about freedom and equality , I really like this one as it showed his empathetic side and greater understanding for human nature!
We should not be in a hurry to blame others or categorize people into good…
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Recently I have had some conversations with few of friends and I have gone through this phase myself ,the topic doesn’t leave me for sometime. The pressures of an urban girl, our modern working women!
The social progress and development has given a lot of rights to women : Education, Equality, Work etc and we have excelled in all of the fields .We have dreamed , aspired , struggled and achieved our dreams to be educated and financially independent . While we were flying high happily in our lives suddenly we had our strings pulled back because we have hit 26 ,some 28 or 30 years in age and are still single. This pressure to be married and settled down is so much that it overshadows all the achievements of girls , from being an achiever they are reduced to a status of poor girls who are not yet married. Their families are in constant pressure to get their daughters married in our South East Asian societies . With each passing birthday , they have another year of being a ‘yet unmarried girl’. Not talking about the details of going into an arranged marriage and those pains of rejections or being forced to settle for someone who is not even their worth or match just because the clock is ticking.
Since the time we have remembered being ourselves as girls, we had this constant pressure of proving ourselves to what boys can do or are allowed to do . Infact this pressure of doing things turns into outperforming them and also became passion . The performance had boosted our confidence and self respect and we had got habitual of living with dignity and pride when all of sudden people around us starting stealing it in form of concern and pity. Why do we even allow ourselves to be reduced to an object of pity for others.We have put all of lives to become what we are today and then this constant pressure of marriage is draining all our energies (and later on it brings additional roles and responsibilities that I have kept for other parts of this topic) and for some even deviating from their life’s goal. They want to study further or get a better position in their work , or travel and later think about Marriage , Why not respect their opinions ?
I think it is not only working women’s problem who should somehow found a way to solve their problem but we need a collective change in mindset of our society to accept that there is not only a single age bracket to get married and once you pass that age you will not get married. We need to come out of that closed box thinking of being limited to our traditions and cultures , Be kind enough to understand these women who just finished their studies , started working, some of them still paying their education loans are now grilled with this pressure and are piling up the stress . So many of us have started having health issues which mostly are result of chronic stress.The message is not only for these urban working ladies to be strong enough to handle this pressure of marriage but also to our society to be gentle enough , to be more kind and more mature to accept the change and let go of their preconceived notion of marriageable age.
I am not against marriage , there is nothing better than a good marriage and also nothing worse than a bad marriage so we need to choose wisely . Why rush or be sad for things not happening right now. Things will happen at their own time , till then we need to continue living our lives. The ultimate goal of life is not only marriage . Do things that you love, increase your knowledge , learn new things , travel , practice kindness and patience and most importantly never ever give up your confidence !
More to be followed soon in other parts 🙂
I guess it is the time again to bring you from the gems of Mawlana Rumi. It is one of my favorite quote and I am sure will become your favorite too.
Quotes are nothing but affirmation of unspoken thoughts residing inside your mind and when you read them , they resonate inside with those words and your heart tells you it is the truth ! Mawlana Rumi has mastered this art of capturing these thoughts and they serve as sign and reminder of our true inner feelings.
The biggest proof of this quote is my blog and I keep coming back here to pen down my thoughts, although a virtual space but it is still a place for refuge for being with my own self where that otherwise quiet person inside, speaks . This is what I like the most may be to be clear in my mind, to hear what’s going inside . Sometimes some stories unfold, sometimes old memories resurface and sometimes there is good old friend’s advice.There is so much going on, we just need some time to stop and listen, to be our own friend .
We may not be able to pursue our passion as full time thing because of many reasons in life but we can always find some time to do the things we like to do the most. It serves as a form of meditational therapy to keep you calm and at peace.
Do let me know what you all like to do ? Happy Wednesday Everyone !