Does your wearing Hijab or Jilbab guarantees you will not be eve- teased ?

Does your  wearing Hijab or Jilbab guarantees you will not be eve- teased ?  Unfortunately, It doesn’t ! There are many times this argument has been given over modesty of women where her covering up is directly linked to the response and behavior of eve teasers and molesters . A covered woman implies I am not open for harassment then what does  a women in shorts implies ? Is she is quite open to it ?  I don’t think any woman would like that. There is no guarantee if you wear Burqa or Hijab that nobody will stare at you, or harass you or pass lewd comments or might even try to touch you inappropriately on  public transports  especially if you live in third world countries. We are often so engrossed in thinking how a woman’s behavior and dress should be that we forget how  behavior of men should be ! Who is going to moral coach these men to  behave with women and respect them, irrespective of what women wear and  look like. Why our scholars not talk about it more often, than they do for pious women . If by wearing Hijab  I have done my part for modesty, then where is your part Brother or my not doing Hijab gives you a right to not do your part ?

There are pictures on internet floating in support of Hijab where there is a comparison of Hijabi and a non Hijabi  by showing an  open candy surrounded by flies  and a  wrapped candy safe and sound like a Hijabi in her Hijab , I mean really ? What are you reducing us to ? mere candies ! This is what you think of woman as? and it’s a pity seeing women supporting it. Are you wearing your Hijab because you feel you are fulfilling a command of Allah or you think it makes you holier than the other women and you can assume them as lower and less worthy than you , if that is the case , it is time for a Reality Check sisters. This  holier than thou attitude is like a pest and eating all your efforts and goodness. We have to let it go, we are wearing Hijab because we want to, because Allah asked us to. Us doing something and other’s not doing it  doesn’t make us any better . Even when you read Quran , Allah always mentions things as This is better for you  and you might now know or harmful for you that you do not know. He nevers says ,I will love you less and you are now less holy than others. We might be doing something more worrisome than wearing or not wearing Hijab  and we might even not know about it . Time to self introspect and improve .

Time to stand up for all women respect and dignity irrespective of her choice of clothes. It is time for men to start behaving than pointing fingers on women . If you say a woman in less clothes provokes you , what argument you have to misbehave with a woman in Hijab or full covered clothes, you don’t like what she has put on her head or that loose garment around her body, you have to admit it is your pervert nature and it needs to be cured.

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45 thoughts on “Does your wearing Hijab or Jilbab guarantees you will not be eve- teased ?

    1. Thank you Safiyah,that was the thought behind the post, A clear message to Men : Don’t hide your perversion behind the woman’s dress, The small town I have grown up in India is a muslim majority and most of the women wear a burqa and hijab or take a chador but how they look at them or pass comments or sing song when they were passing was beyond disgust. not mentioning about the harassment on public transports .

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    1. Walekum as salaam Sister, that’s true, Time to teach men equally as much as teaching women about modesty. Btw Yesterday in a group discussion online, I took a reference of your Blog post to support an argument over issue of Beating of Wife in Islam is allowed ? in light of our Holy book , How can that be interpreted on basis of life of Prophet and his behavior with his wives. There is a lot of discussion going on in India over Instant Triple Talaq and all the ulemas in India are supporting it.I hope that is fine with you if I take reference from your Blog for some discussions ? I am not an expert of Islamic Studies and you definitely have good knowledge in Fiqh and Sharia and you quote well in your posts.

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      1. It’s completely fine sis :). I got my reference from a reliable source so no worries insha’Allah. Jazakh’Allah khair for keeping me in high esteem subhanallah xx 🙂 and lots of love to ya habibti. Jummah mubarak!

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  1. I really enjoyed this post as someone who had previously worn a jilbab and struggled then switched over to the hijab! It is up to us as women to ensure we raise the next generation of men properly! I’ve just started a blog of my own and glad I stumbled across yours! Thanks for the read.

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  2. THIS THIS THIS THIS
    OH Sana, I’m so very much in favor of this post of yours and I’m so so glad to see a muslim woman speak about this…
    And btw, I wear Abaya and live in Kuwait.. Yet it doesnt stop men from offering me a ride to hotel suites when they see me walking alone…
    So really, men and their disgusting views about women have nothing to do with what women wear and how much they cover themselves. They just sit and use the candies and hijabs concept to justify their illicit and indecent actions. And then there are women dumb enough to buy it.
    if a woman’s clothes define how she deserves to be treated and respected, then frankly all women would deserve to be disrespected, ’cause funny how these same men who use a woman’s revealing clothes as an excuse to hurt her are the same ones that dare to disrespect me while I’m covered head to toe..
    Frankly, I dont deem men worthy enough or decent enough to listen to their explanations about women, hijab and candies.
    Women aren’t candies.
    Women aren’t for men’s pleasure. (To think that women were created to give men pleasure is a concept from the time of Jahiliyya)
    Women aren’t playthings
    Women aren’t objects
    Women aren’t things comparable to candies, diamonds or trophies.
    Women are HUMAN BEINGS and they have every right to live the way they please without the threat of being harmed for it.
    Women aren’t at disposals of men to decide whether they deserve respect or not.
    Men dont decide.
    MEN SIMPLY DONT DECIDE.
    Only God can judge and he will deal with his slaves in whichever way he please. But I swear to God men need to stop acting like they’re capable of being God.
    Sitting and punishing women for how they choose to dress like they’re pets which need to be trained.
    I swear to God, men need to STOP.

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    1. wow Hiba, I love your comment more than my post! Exactly this is what I wanted to say! Why cant you treat as another human being than just seeing as an eye candy or an object ! I hope you are doing well ! Miss your posts!

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      1. I’m much well, Alhamdulillah.
        And yes I’ve been thinking now to get back at blogging… I’m visiting Pakistan for a month, and I feel my motivation to write perking up. 🙄

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  3. A writer from the East

    You go! Spot on message to all perverted lots that women’s clothes, hijab and no hijab status is no excuse to salivate and lose control!!!
    I am lovin how you put it across!

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      1. A writer from the East

        Completely agree with you, and work starts with women once again. As mothers we need too teach sons that respecting society includes men and women.

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  4. This post!! You know I always end up arguing with people who comes up this candy story even when they’re trying to defend my hijab. I tell them, ‘My hijab is my choice and I have good enough reason to wear it, so don’t even start with that candy theory.’ Even some women support that sick (I can’t find more descent a word to describe that) theory. It somehow implies that we are all some candies to be consumed by some superior men(indirectly this is what it seems to say).
    People, even scholars often forget that Allah has also said ‘Lower your gazes’ to men, which only on practice would solve every molestation and rape issue we are forced to face. The problem is with the male centered mentality, that a woman is always reminded of how she should be living, but a man is free to do anything! It’s time we teach our boys how to respect women rather than keeping our girls locked inside so as not to get molested.
    Really important topic you’ve discussed here sister!! We hijabis should all stand against this candy theory. !

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    1. Thank you Aisha for your support ! It was a difficult topic..not many could agree because they already bought in the candy theory..I wish more people could support it and realize the underlying issue with Men ‘s behavior of not respecting females.Its not always a woman’s fault.

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  5. Assalam-o-alaikum Dear sister,
    I respect your view towards hijaab and supports you as well,
    Allah mentioned in noble Quran
    “Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.” (Surah Nur, Ayat 30)

    and just after this ayat in the next Ayat Allah mentioned about the believing women

    ” And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.” (Surah Nur, Ayat 31).

    So it is clear from these Ayat that first Allah says believing Men to reduce their vision, then comes to women. So sister be sure, the believing men will never do anything which will harm your nobleness. May Allah safeguard us.

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    1. Wasalam Brother, Indeed the true believers will never harm or disrespect any woman. and thank you for quoting that verse from Quran. We need more such noble souls on earth. However there are many who are misguided and wrong doers, and this post was a rant for such brothers. May Allah guide us all.

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  6. Salaam! I love your post & totally agree. Men & women should be aware of how their actions affect the opposite gender, but just because a woman is uncovered, doesn’t give a man a free pass to harass her. Both should attempt to increase their modesty for the sake of Allah 🙂 and yeah that candy wrapper picture is just ignorant. lol.

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  7. Also in the most conservative countries there are stories about these indecent incidents against women in hijab or not. This is the issue of manners and i really think it would be better to start with islamic morals and manners before focusing on appearance.
    Thanks for writing this.

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