Some pictures I took last sunday from my visit to a park.
When was the last time your phone embarrassed you ?
ME : Just 5 minutes before !
Today was like any other normal day at work, I was sleepy after my lunch ,while I sipped tea from my pink mug I scrolled down the newsfeed of my Facebook and then suddenly the song ‘Rang Barse’ started playing, with some of friends dancing on it and playing Holi in other part of world !My face all red ( all natural without any colors of Holi ) , my nervous fingers took three attempts to shut it up. I didnt look up but I can still see the frowns of some of my angry colleagues and others amused , saying Thank God it wasn’t them . I have turned off my data for the rest of the day .
It had happened to me other times as well but that was quick for a microsecond, I think it was on Instagram while I was looking for a picture to upload and it started playing some strange video , forwarded and auto downloaded on one of my Whatsapp group and I was wondering where the Hell it came from to my phone.
A day before, it had happened to one of my colleague, We were all in a presentation given by our Big Boss ( Boss of the Boss) , bored like everyone else she started scrolling her FB feed and a video played on.The Boss had to stop his presentation for a minute till she could stop the video and rest everyone had finished laughing 😀
I think the only other person who knows us too well is the phone, the maximum time we spend with every day. On of the days my phone hid himself in my hand bag, and it took me like 5 minutes to find him back while I was in front of some people waiting for me to give them some information that I have saved in my phone. Actually those 5 minutes felt like an year while i was digging in my bag.
and the list can go on and on !
What are your phone embarrassing moments ?
Living in another country than your country of origin has all its pros and cons , Besides it makes you over sensitive to the behavior of people around you and attached to every little detail that reminds you of your country, hearing a fellow speaking your language or smelling the familiar spices from the food warming up in your office microwave always bring a smile on your face .
My work place has a lot of Indians so whenever I go down to cafeteria for lunch , I feel like I am in Bangalore or Chennai office with queues of Indians alongside the microwave to warm up their meals.The locals (Belgians) prefer to take food from canteen except few who bring their lunch from home , mostly it is us Indians who occupy all the microwaves during lunch time so normally it could take upto 10-15 minutes in the queue to warm up your lunch.
Today was one such another day of waiting in the Queue, so when it came our turn to warm up, me and my colleague, We decided to keep our boxes together and increase the timer instead of warming one by one. I think it took us less than 4 mins to finish , meanwhile we were standing there , there were those restless glances exchanged between the other Indians behind us as if we are taking a lifetime and those expressions of seeing a monkey on the microwave rather than a human being ! Generally they are polite and smiling when it comes to someone who is not Indian and cooking his food in Microwave for more than 10 minutes, it was such a disgust in their eyes of ‘ O my God these Desi pendu people ‘ , I am still not over it ! I have seen them for almost two years near that microwave , either before me or after me , never smiling to anyone who is an Indian and not from their Company.
This is just one of many incidents which I can write a book about , I have actually came to the conclusion that we Indians never respect other Indians inside or outside our country .We still live in the mindset of third world countries where the West is still superior to us. Have you ever seen an American or German or British not respecting their fellow country men in a third country. ( The names for these Countries are just for example sake ) Probably you won’t find many examples, but what I have felt and written here I am sure many Indians living abroad can relate to it.
The terms like ‘Arey ye to desi hai ‘ , Leaving the door on the face, bypassing the queue , Just because on the other side is a ‘desi’ and not a European .How easily we take the liberty of breaking the rules and disrespecting the etiquettes with another Indian , Why ? or in other words we do not respect our own self because every other Indian that you see around is a mirror image of you irrespective of what you wear and eat and this is how the rest of the world see us, we are only Indians for them , It doesn’t matter if you wear western clothes or traditional Indian clothes , eat the Indian food or European food, hang out with others Indian or Locals , Speak English with an Indian Accent or British Accent for the rest you are one Entity , one single identity to be referred as Indians and if you are complaining about loopholes of a third world society , we better leave those habits that has still kept us in the third world , Why these double standards ! If you love right to equality , no discrimination based on anything, equal respect of all jobs , practice it with all human beings, start right from yourself and your home first! Once we achieve this , our societies will progress with a big leap, back at home and wherever we are.
From the wisdom of Rumi , I bring you another Jewel . It is from Masnavi Book 1 and Chapter name is “In Things Spiritual There Is No Division”. I held my breath for few seconds after I read this verse, so powerful and so deep ! Indeed when we imagine ourselves as spiritual beings all notions of division disappear from the mind be it of man or woman, rich or poor, beautiful or ugly , young or old , black or white. We are just spirits or souls. And as we imagine ourselves as mere soul, everyone else becomes our equal immediately. We then assume ourselves as same matter and feel the urging sense of belongingness to another world that conforms to our origination from a single source.There is a peace observed in spirituality because all the desires are dropped for the moment, the mind which teaches division, shuts down to listen to all the beautiful cosmic silences . The eyes close then themselves because vision is hindrance to concentration pouring in and there is energy flowing in and around you. Meditation is a beautiful way to spiritual experience and knowing yourself .Few minutes of silence in meditation daily are enough to satiate your soul .
And you all know who is who here ? 😀 😀
On Death Anniversary of Malcolm X, Remembering his powerful words!
For Wednesday Ritual Quotation , I chose this quote from Malcolm X, inspired from his autobiography that I started reading a month back but didn’t finish it yet, I am more busy in blogging these days and reading posts from WordPress Reader than my own list.
Malcolm X was a strong leader with a great vision,unfortunately he didn’t live long enough to write many books but what he left is worth reading! It somehow gives me that strength that I am looking for,his words are empowering which compels for the need of self-respect and most essential ,everyone’s right to freedom! . He lived for it and died for it.
Most of his quotes are about freedom and equality , I really like this one as it showed his empathetic side and greater understanding for human nature!
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Recently I have had some conversations with few of friends and I have gone through this phase myself ,the topic doesn’t leave me for sometime. The pressures of an urban girl, our modern working women!
The social progress and development has given a lot of rights to women : Education, Equality, Work etc and we have excelled in all of the fields .We have dreamed , aspired , struggled and achieved our dreams to be educated and financially independent . While we were flying high happily in our lives suddenly we had our strings pulled back because we have hit 26 ,some 28 or 30 years in age and are still single. This pressure to be married and settled down is so much that it overshadows all the achievements of girls , from being an achiever they are reduced to a status of poor girls who are not yet married. Their families are in constant pressure to get their daughters married in our South East Asian societies . With each passing birthday , they have another year of being a ‘yet unmarried girl’. Not talking about the details of going into an arranged marriage and those pains of rejections or being forced to settle for someone who is not even their worth or match just because the clock is ticking.
Since the time we have remembered being ourselves as girls, we had this constant pressure of proving ourselves to what boys can do or are allowed to do . Infact this pressure of doing things turns into outperforming them and also became passion . The performance had boosted our confidence and self respect and we had got habitual of living with dignity and pride when all of sudden people around us starting stealing it in form of concern and pity. Why do we even allow ourselves to be reduced to an object of pity for others.We have put all of lives to become what we are today and then this constant pressure of marriage is draining all our energies (and later on it brings additional roles and responsibilities that I have kept for other parts of this topic) and for some even deviating from their life’s goal. They want to study further or get a better position in their work , or travel and later think about Marriage , Why not respect their opinions ?
I think it is not only working women’s problem who should somehow found a way to solve their problem but we need a collective change in mindset of our society to accept that there is not only a single age bracket to get married and once you pass that age you will not get married. We need to come out of that closed box thinking of being limited to our traditions and cultures , Be kind enough to understand these women who just finished their studies , started working, some of them still paying their education loans are now grilled with this pressure and are piling up the stress . So many of us have started having health issues which mostly are result of chronic stress.The message is not only for these urban working ladies to be strong enough to handle this pressure of marriage but also to our society to be gentle enough , to be more kind and more mature to accept the change and let go of their preconceived notion of marriageable age.
I am not against marriage , there is nothing better than a good marriage and also nothing worse than a bad marriage so we need to choose wisely . Why rush or be sad for things not happening right now. Things will happen at their own time , till then we need to continue living our lives. The ultimate goal of life is not only marriage . Do things that you love, increase your knowledge , learn new things , travel , practice kindness and patience and most importantly never ever give up your confidence !
More to be followed soon in other parts 🙂
I guess it is the time again to bring you from the gems of Mawlana Rumi. It is one of my favorite quote and I am sure will become your favorite too.
Quotes are nothing but affirmation of unspoken thoughts residing inside your mind and when you read them , they resonate inside with those words and your heart tells you it is the truth ! Mawlana Rumi has mastered this art of capturing these thoughts and they serve as sign and reminder of our true inner feelings.
The biggest proof of this quote is my blog and I keep coming back here to pen down my thoughts, although a virtual space but it is still a place for refuge for being with my own self where that otherwise quiet person inside, speaks . This is what I like the most may be to be clear in my mind, to hear what’s going inside . Sometimes some stories unfold, sometimes old memories resurface and sometimes there is good old friend’s advice.There is so much going on, we just need some time to stop and listen, to be our own friend .
We may not be able to pursue our passion as full time thing because of many reasons in life but we can always find some time to do the things we like to do the most. It serves as a form of meditational therapy to keep you calm and at peace.
Do let me know what you all like to do ? Happy Wednesday Everyone !
Sometimes it is hard to understand that people are having a bad day or they are in their normal ill humoured mood or is it intentional for you! I have a problem with rude people especially if they are at service desk . I understand everything is very general for them because it is their everyday job and the person asking them questions seems stupid enough but being rude and giving him/her angry looks makes them look even more incompetent for the job they are being hired for .
Today I went to local kiosk where you can buy your everyday stuff including magazines, newspapers and they also send your letters and posts. I asked the lady at the counter, I want to send a letter by registered post . Before I had uttered the words “by registered post” she had already put a local stamp on it and then she was angry ” You have to tell me first! ” and I was half shocked, blurted out “ yes, I told you ” . She then shook her head saying no , rolled her eyes up as if I am lying and said “Sending a letter means local post and you should say Register ! You already had me waiting while I have other customers ” .
The blood gushed to my face, I could feel nervousness in my hands while taking out coins, I quickly paid her and left . I could hear my heartbeats in my ears, it didnt came back normal until 15 mins, nervousness in my hands for another 20 minutes and my mood for 30 mins ! That is what happens if you are hypersensitive, small little everyday things could trigger those anxieties and nervousness. I suffered for an hour almost without any fault . With this hypersensitivity one is so prone to get hurt even with people who are complete strangers . You shatter a little everyday and then you gather yourself and stand up again. It is a everyday routine to watch yourself and protect from getting hurt but then it happens every now and then.
It is impossible to avoid such people in life, you meet them at every corner. The best thing you can do is divert your mind to something else immediately for example start checking phone , call some one, listen a song or say something to calm yourself down , a prayer.
*Carrot Halwa is a famous Indian/Pakistani Sweet prepared especially in winters.